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The Soft Approach Works Better

by Ansh

It was two months back when our three year old son started behaving in a strange manner.

He was using abusive words and shouting like anything. He started showing his fist, strange eyes co-ordination and bad face impressions.

We were getting fed up with his attitude.

What can we do? Shall we take him to a counselor? Is it normal? “Shall it resolve itself?”

We were very much disturbed and tried to rectify this somehow.

We tried reprimanding him, showing him how upset we were, threatened that he should not be given his favorite foods if he did not stop these bad habits, etc. etc.

It did not work at all.

It was then that I lost control and slapped him.

He cried for a while and I thought it was done.

He has got a good lesson and shall not repeat it now, or so I thought.

Yes, it worked but only for 15-20 minutes. He started behaving badly again. In fact, now he was becoming more aggressive and stubborn day by day.

What shall we do for him?

This issue was taking our time each day. We consulted some friends who advised us to be patient and see what he likes. We, being new to all this, were not knowing how to respond to such a situation.

Suddenly one day, I noticed he responded well when we talked to him softly.

He also tried to imitate us for certain actions.

I got an idea.

We shall be good at least when he is around. We shall ourselves not fight or use bad words in front of him.

We immediately took the soft approach and tried to be our best when he was around.

I explained to him softly “Look how bad I look when I am using abusive words”.

I then told him “You are the best son and shall be better if you could quit saying those bad words”.

I finally added that “I shall get you your favorite toy if you will be good for one week”.

To my surprise, he was responding positively, accepting that he was behaving badly and he loved to be called a good child.

Within a week we could spot major changes in him and we got our old lovable child back, and he got a new toy!

The soft approach definitely works better with kids who are growing and learning every day.

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How to handle your child?
by: shashank

Yes, this is absolutely correct that the soft approach works, but if a child behaves badly every time that he needs something ,then the soft approach is not a good solution in that case.

We must help our children to understand that doing such behaviors are not a good thing.

This trend toward negative behaviors can also affect their life and their studies too, so we must help to correct it as soon as we see it happening.

Lead by Example
by: GKash

I think that the only way to teach a child is through example.

If a child sees their parents fighting and using bad language that is what they are going to think is "Normal" behavior.

We have a little boy too, and we try our best to behave in a calm, soft way towards each other in front of him.

All the best!!

Good Parenting
by: Dojeda

After reading this I'm glad I'm not the only parent who takes the softer approach on things.

My four year old son was being very abusive and loud and instead of hitting him, we took him aside and talked to him.

It worked much better and I'm glad it also worked for you.

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