Father’s Advice Is One Father’s Instructions For Life, Written Down For The Benefit Of His Son, Passed Down To Me By A Friend, And Now Shared With You To Share With Others

To God himself we cannot give a holier name."

William Wordsworth (1770-1850)

Father’s Advice is the story of a humble man whose influence came into my life and thankfully never fully left it.

Father’s Advice are about the two sheets of paper this man shared with me before moving away, the words of which were written for him by HIS father; fatherly words of wisdom to live by.

This is how I first received them so many years ago. I have since seen these words duplicated on the internet in so many places, which does not surprise me as they are worth repeating.

But my story is about a man who shared them with me and changed the way I looked at being a father forever.

This man was a heavy, jolly, humble and un-refined salt-of-the-earth auto mechanic with perpetual grease under his fingernails and perpetual goodwill in his heart.

Father’s Advice is what this man demonstrated by his willingness to help anyone at any time to get out of any difficulty they had found themselves in, especially if it had to do with cars or had happened in the dead middle of the night.

This man lived in a small apartment but lived as if he were the benevolent master of the universe.

    Share Your Favorite        "Being a Father" Success Story

Are you a dad, or do you know a dad, who has a particularly good 'father success' story to share?

Well, share it with us here and now.


He was a man so unassuming that it would be easy to underestimate his kindness and his contributions to the rest of us – which I am sure most of us did on a regular basis.

Because he had probably never seen the inside of an opera house and we had, we may have even looked down on him at times – a shameful mistake I strive never to repeat with any other living soul.

He was a large and powerful man who because of his Father’s Advice was a teddy bear at heart, and in whose presence you feared nobody and nothing.

When he dropped everything to help you at the most inconvenient time possible, he never asked for nor would ever accept a monetary recompense, but only ever asked that you now help someone else in need as he had just helped you.

Father’s Advice is an example so powerful that I have kept these two pages for close to two decades and never lost them, and yet for the life of me I CANNOT remember his name.

So get ready for a real treat as I share with you what was written on those two pages he gave to me shortly before he and his wife moved away, never to be seen by me again, and which I used as the motivation for this page which I have called ‘Father’s Advice’.

A Father’s Instructions For Life

1. Compliment three people each day

2. Watch a sunrise at least once a year

3. Over-tip breakfast waitresses

4. Look people in the eyes

5. Say “Thank You” a lot

6. Say “Please” a lot

7. Live beneath your means

8. Buy whatever kids are selling on card tables in their front yards

9. Treat everyone you meet as you want to be treated

10. Donate two pints of blood every year

11. Make new friends but cherish the old ones

12. Keep secrets

Tools - © Batega

13. Don’t waste time learning the tricks of the trade. Instead learn the trade

14. Admit your mistakes

15. Be brave. Even if you’re not, pretend to be. No one can tell the difference

16. Choose a charity in your community and support it generously with your time and money

17. Read the United States’ Bill of Rights

18. Use credit cards only for convenience, never for credit

19. Give yourself a year and read the Bible cover to cover

20. Give yourself a year and read any great book you have always wanted to read cover to cover

21. Learn to listen

22. Opportunity sometimes knocks very softly

23. Never deprive someone of hope; it might be all he or she has

24. Pray not for things but for wisdom and courage

25. Never take action when you are angry

26. Have good posture

27. Enter a room with purpose and confidence

28. Don’t discuss business in elevators

29. Never pay for work before it’s completed

30. Be willing to lose a battle in order to win the war

31. Don’t gossip

32. Beware of the person who has nothing to lose

33. When facing a difficult task act as though it is impossible to fail

34. If you’re going after Moby Dick, take along the tartar sauce

35. Don’t spread yourself too thin

36. Never underestimate the power of forgiveness

Lovers - © Apenas Imagens - Marilia Almeida

37. Instead of using the word ‘Problem’, try substituting the word ‘Opportunity’

38. Never walk out on a quarrel with your mate

39. Regarding furniture and cloths, if you think you will be using them five years or longer, buy the best you can afford

40. Be bold and courageous

41. When you look back on your life you’ll regret the things you didn’t do more than the ones you did

42. Forget committees. New, noble, world-changing ideas always come from one person working alone

43. Street musicians are a treasure. Stop for a moment and listen, then leave a small donation

44. When faced with a serious health problem, get at least three medical opinions

45. Wage war against littering

46. After encountering inferior service, food or products, bring it to the attention of the person in charge. Good managers will appreciate knowing

47. Learn to say ‘No’ politely and quickly

48. Don’t expect life to be fair

49. Park your car at the end of a row or under a light at the far end of a parking lot

50. Never get into your car without looking into it first

This Father’s Advice is both profound and simple, yet if taken to heart and lived by Parents everywhere in a manner that their children will follow their lead, the world as we know it would forever change for the better.

Father’s Advice is like parenting itself; nothing seemingly too complex yet having the power to ultimately touch the lives of millions for good.

There is a lot more parenting wisdom to share. Here is another Father’s Advice thought: Be the parent who shares in both words and deeds the type of life you want your children to live in order to be valiant, true, noble and serviceable to themselves and to the larger world in which we all live at any time, for any reason, over and over again.

Remember that YOUR greatest contribution will be the children, family and legacy YOU leave behind once you have lived your life. Live so as to leave a road map for life that your children can easily and eagerly follow.

Return from the Father’s Advice Page to the Parental Potpourri Page

Site Build It!

Parenting Blog - About Me - Contact Us - Privacy Policy