Child Discipline Guidelines :
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| "It is very difficult and expensive to undo after you are married the things that your mother and father did to you while you were putting your first six birthdays behind you." Bureau of Social Hygiene Study, 1928 |
Take a moment to notice the date on the Quotation Above - 1928.
Over eighty years ago there was already the realization that improper parenting caused a lot of problems.
It is for this reason that these Discipline Guidelines have been drawn up to help us avoid such problems.
Kids Fighting leads to the need for disciplining children, including from time to time an appropriate form of punishment.
Consequence Parenting helps parents to teach children through cause-and-effect teaching principles.
It is obviously your desire NOT to mess up your children as countless parents before you have done by getting this process wrong.
If you haven’t already done so, do yourself a big favor and download our Free Discipline Guidelines Report, which is a must read for any parent who is truly serious about understanding this issue further.
More harm can be done in the shortest amount of time when it comes to how and why you Discipline your children.
Which Discipline Do You Find Loving Yet Effective? What works well in YOUR family?
This is yet another reason why these Discipline Guidelines are presented for your consideration.
We want to enjoy our children and to be kind and loving to them.
But being a good parent also means loving our children enough to train and correct them from time to time when needed. This is in essence our definition of Tough Love Parenting
That training and correction is another word for Discipline.
Here are some Discipline Guidelines that will help you to get it right.
With the intention of providing positive, loving and effective discipline to our children when needed, here are some Discipline Guidelines that will help you in your pursuit of proper child discipline.
Guideline No. 1: Always Act In Love
Guideline No. 2: Never Punish When You Are Angry Or Not In Control Of Yourself
Guideline No. 3: Explain Why The Punishment Is Being Given And How It Can Be Avoided In The Future
Guideline No. 4: Explain Why The Action That Led To The Punishment Is Not Acceptable, And Show Your Child How That Action Is Not In The Child’s Best Interest
Guideline No. 5: Always Make The Punishment ‘Age Appropriate’.
Guideline No. 6: Use Spanking Sparingly, And Never Be Cruel In Your Choice Of Punishments
Guideline No. 7: Be Consistent In Your Expectations and Consequences
Guideline No. 8: Don’t Punish A Child If They Didn’t Know Their Action Was Wrong; Teach Them Instead
Guideline No. 9: Never Punish A Child For Doing Something That You Do Yourself. You Must Always Lead By Example
Guideline No. 10: Don’t Act Happy Or Glad That A Child Needs To Be Punished. Express Your Regret And Empathize With Your Child
Guideline No. 11: Help Your Child ‘Learn The Lesson’ Behind The Punishment So They Can Avoid The Same Mistake In The Future
Guideline No. 12: Always Show And Express Your Love And Devotion To Your Child Following A Punishment. Make Sure They See You As A Loving Parent And Not As An Enemy
Guideline No. 13: Follow Your Heart And Your Instincts. If You Feel Guilty Or Bad After Punishing Your Child Then You Did Something Wrong. Apologize To Your Child And Never Do It Again
Guideline No. 14: Forgive Your Child Quickly And Fully. Never Hold A Grudge And Don’t Bring Up Past Errors Or Mistakes That Your Child Has Made Amends For
Guideline No. 15: Shower Your Child With Love As Soon After A Punishment As You Can
Guideline No. 16: Always Turn The Punishment Into A Positive Learning Experience For Your Child
Guideline No. 17: Don’t Punish If Your Child Obviously Feels Bad And Has Already Learned Their Lesson
Guideline No. 18: Remember The True Meanings Of Discipline And What The End Goal Of Such Action Should Be. Act Accordingly
Guideline No. 19: Be Willing To Admit Your Own Mistakes And Shortcomings To Your Children When Appropriate. No One Is Perfect, And That Includes You
Guideline No. 20: Always Act In Love
By starting and ending the Discipline process with love, you ensure that your child knows that it is love that motivates your actions.
That being said, you should act in a loving manner, especially when you need to Discipline your children.
Use these Discipline Guidelines to help you make the best Discipline decisions possible.
Additional and highly effective Disciplining Children Guidelines can be found in this widely praised behavioral program.
Remember : The word DISCIPLINE comes from the Latin
Disciplina, meaning 'To Teach'
The word DISCIPLINE also comes from the Latin
Discipulus, meaning a 'Pupil or Student'
So to Discipline is to act as a teacher for your child who will be in a sense your disciple of sorts.
Teach your child with love and by example.
Discipline only when needed, as lightly as possible in order to teach the lesson, and always with love.
By doing this both you and your child will grow and learn from each other, and your child will learn to love and appreciate you for the help and guidance you give them.
Discipline will be a positive experience.
And that is what these Discipline Guidelines were intended for.
To Lovingly Educate Your Child Is The Essence of Parental Discipline!
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